You know that feeling you have when you go up to the Children’s Rooms or Nurseries during the night – and you look at them curled up in their cot or bed… so cosy, angelic, peaceful – and quiet.
Don’t they look just beautiful?
Our hearts fill with love, and we count our blessings over and over again.
Can you even believe that they were so naughty and challenging (nay, even difficult!) to deal with earlier that day, and you were ready to tear your hair out, and burst into tears?
How can we cope when the children have those naughty times?
•    Firstly please know – you’re not alone, you’re not a bad parent, and every single one of us goes through the same challenges, but just at different times, and to different degrees.
•    Remember that recent advert on television when the child had a tantrum in the middle of the supermarket aisle, and lay screaming on the floor? And the Mum got down on the floor and did the same thing? Believe me, to a greater or lesser extent, it has probably happened to us all – and we’re all embarrassed, and feel that we must be terrible parents. We all deal with it in different ways that work for us, and there is no wrong or right – providing of course we’re not violent to the child.
•    It can help talking to your friends – they know you and your child, and perhaps they have developed a strategy which worked for them that could help you.
•    We know that it takes a lot of patience to help your child grow up safe, healthy and happy. So, find a way to develop it. Perhaps you learn a special way to breathe, or you count to 10, or learn and use a yoga technique, so that you calm down before you explode?
•    We’re not all Mother Earth types, or a “Blue Peter” mum – so don’t blame yourself if your strengths lie elsewhere.
•    What does singing have to do with this? Well – make sure that you and anyone who also has a hand in looking after your child / children are “singing from the same hymn sheet”. You, any husband, partner, nanny, child minder, parents and in-laws must all stick by the same rules – if, for example, you say that your child must sit at the table until everyone else has finished their meal, then another person can’t say and do otherwise. If you say that there’s no sweets , then even a doting grandparent has to abide by what you’ve said, and not give your child sweets in your absence.
•    And lastly, please remember that if you feel that your child has a genuine behavioural problem and you are at the end of your tether, there are many qualified people with specialist knowledge who can help you – GP’s, health visitors, Counsellors, child psychologists and psychiatrists to name but a few.
Now that hopefully you can feel a little calmer in the first place, on the next blog I’ll give some tips on actually how to cope with the children rather than you!
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